The New Light
OA's Quarterly Newsletter

    


Winter, 2019


From the Editors Desk

     The SC Intergroup recently lost Kevin C., our Public Information Rep., when he passed away in November. Kevin was always enthusiastic about his service in OA/Intergroup and attended several meetings for many years.  He will surely be missed.

Yours in service, Doria

                                                               Important Announcements

Suffolk Intergroup meets every 2nd Thursday of the month at the East Islip Public Library at 7:00pm, usually downstairs conference room. Please confirm with the Desk.

Please check our meeting list for changes. If you have any needed changes, please email paradee99@aol.com


Twelve Freedoms

1. Freedom from the obsession with food

2. Freedom from insanity and hopelessness

3. Freedom from the bondage of self

4. Freedom from dishonesty

5. Freedom from isolation

6. Freedom from running the show

7. Freedom from self-reliance

8. Freedom from blame

9. Freedom from fear of people

10. Freedom from complacency

11. Freedom from loneliness

12. Freedom from lack of purpose —

Voices of Recovery (p. 205) and Lifeline


 

New Moves

 

In my recovery, I had problems trying to understand the OA program. It was simple, and that was the problem. I was baffled by its simplicity. I also practice tai chi and enjoy the challenge of learning new moves, but what I find is this: The easy moves are hard and the hard moves are easy. Standing at my front door one day, I thought, “All I have to do to get into the house is open this. I don’t need to do research on the door, find out who built the door, or figure out what the door is made of. None of that information will get me into my house.” I like to analyze things. I think if I get things figured out, I’ll move forward. But logic won’t always help and some things can’t be explained. This program isn’t about the Steps we analyze, it’s about the Steps we take. I can take action, not let fear run my life, and trust HP that action will work for me. — Bill B., Vancouver, Washington USA, Lifeline


Important Dates 2019

 

OA’s Birthday will be celebrated January 19–20, 2019.

• Unity Day will be celebrated alternately on the last Saturday of February in even years and the last Sunday in February in odd years. Plus, Unity Day will now be celebrated at 11:30 a.m. local time (previously Pacific Standard Time). The next Unity Day celebration is at 11:30 a.m. local time on Sunday, February 24, 2019.

• Sponsorship Day will be celebrated weekend of August 17-18, 2019.

• International Day Experiencing Abstinence (IDEA) will be celebrated November 17, 2019.

The date to celebrate “Twelfth Step Within Day” is Thursday, December 12, 2019. Save these dates! You can find them (and details of other OA events) by going to www.oa.org/ site-map and clicking “Events.”

Here For a Reason

Before March 2014, my life was full of self-hatred, fear, and isolation. I took the phone off the hook and ate all day and night. At one point, I ate myself up to 323 pounds (147 kg). I had been in and out of OA since 1974, and I was desperate. I needed OA badly, and I am now back with a vengeance.

I returned to OA in March 2014. I got abstinent immediately, went to meetings, and used the phone.

In June 2014, I had a relapse. I struggled for several months until finally I asked God for the willingness to give up the food. I prayed this prayer several times a day.

On January 21, 2015, a miracle happened. I got my abstinence back and now have more than six months of continuous abstinence. I have put down the food and picked up the Steps. I am almost finished with Step Four and ready for Step Five.

In June 2015, I was admitted to the hospital with congestive heart failure. At first I was scared and felt I had waited too long to get recovery. During my stay in the hospital, I had a spiritual awakening. I have faith that God kept me here for a reason, and I’d like to think the reason isfor me to help the still-suffering compulsive eater.  OA is a miracle in my life. I attend at least three meetings a week, and I have a sponsor, two sponsees, and many OAfriends. I talk to at least three or four people daily. OA is my answer to the fear, self-hatred, and isolation of the past.— Carole L., Palmer, Mass. {Lifeline}


If you have an experience or idea that you want to share with your fellows, please consider submitting your writing to “The New Light” at paradee99@aol.comby 3/1/19.

 

My Way Didn’t Work

 “Just put down the food and you’ll recover”—that simply didn’t make sense to me. If I could just do that, I wouldn’t be in OA.

I had successfully put down the food before—many times before—but eventually would pick it up again, eating excessively. Food was my enemy and my best friend. Why couldn’t I eat moderately? Why was I so weak? What was wrong with me?  I didn’t understand that I was born with a disease, always wanting more food: sweet, savory, sour . . . it didn’t matter. I would stuff myself with anything edible. Restricting, then bingeing, I’d promise myself this would be the last time. Just being abstinent was not the answer. My self-will would not suffice; it wouldn’t last. The conviction that I could do it alone was insane. I had to accept that my problem—excessive, compulsive overeating—started in my head and I had no adequate defense. In fact, it seemed to be getting worse. I was overeating all day and even all night, and I feared it would kill me. I had to accept that I needed help, but a psychologist didn’t help. Liquid diets didn’t help. Weight-loss programs didn’t help. Pills didn’t help. I always did things my way, and my way didn’t work for long. I was a failure. I was doomed. Then a friend reached out to me and said, “Come to an OA meeting with me.” She saved my life! As I went to meetings, lots of meetings, I heard people share their stories and knew I was finally home. I began to hope. As I read the Big Book, I saw myself in the stories of recovery. As I started to use the Tools and seriously work the Steps, I found even more hope. As I listened to early-morning phone meetings and read the first 164 pages of the Big Book page by page, I found not only hope but also faith in a universal spirit, a Higher Power that could guide me. But I had work to do. I had to accept that I had to take action (quite a bit of action) every day, and be willing to listen and take Good Orderly Direction. Perseverance was key. I had to be willing to stop doing it my way and do it the OA way and the way set down in the Big Book. It’s been twenty years, and I’m still here, listening and learning, one day at a time. Thank you, OA. — Barbara E., West Orange, New Jersey USA

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